When chatting with a girl you like, if you overly express your enthusiasm, it is likely that the girl will become more and more disgusted with you, because you are showing your neediness. So how can you chat with a girl without revealing your neediness?
Let’s look at another question first, why do some people have a good start but still mess up?< /p>
Because emotional development fluctuates, with ups and downs, they can only accept the rise but not the fall. If a girl's enthusiasm for him drops even a little bit, it will cause him to panic, lose his sense of security, and then try to "remediate" driven by instinct.
This way of remediation is either to manically demand that the girl must do something for him, or to grovel and ask the girl to give him affection.
For example, if a girl doesn’t reply to messages for a period of time, the boy will ask questions; or if a girl is a little cold to him, she will rush to give him gifts or treat him to dinner.
In short, his mentality was unbalanced, and he continued to engage in various irrational behaviors, which caused his own value to continue to decline, and eventually became a worthless target in the eyes of girls.
To put it bluntly, the core of whether you can grasp the sense of proportion is whether you can control your mentality and emotions, and whether you can move freely in a rational state.
To use a vivid metaphor, it is almost like flying a kite. When there is wind, we have to tighten the string to prevent the kite from blowing away with the wind. When there is no wind, we have to let the string out and actively run two steps to keep the kite floating in the sky.
The same goes for chasing girls. When you should take action, follow the trend and push forward. Know how to give up the attack when you shouldn't take action, and release your charm to maintain the attraction to girls.
Giving up is a kind of wisdom and a strategy, just like recycling a fist in order to hit it more powerfully next time. Sometimes giving up can give us a greater advantage.
After all, love is something that requires both people to be happy. It does not mean that just hard work and dedication are enough. If you don't know how to give up when it's time to give up, and just keep trying to get into trouble, the harder you work, the further you will push girls away.
From a small chat to an entire relationship, they all fall into the category that we may need to give up.
For example, the phenomenon of girls not replying to your messages——
Girls suddenly stop replying to your messages while you are chatting. Some people will be unable to control their emotions and sense of need, and then they will continue to Question her. In fact, no matter what the reason is for a girl not replying to you, no matter what her mentality is at this time, this behavior will not help you get anything.
If a girl simply doesn’t want to reply to you, it means she is not interested in you. Then this kind of questioning is a pointless struggle. You areIn her eyes, it's no different than being funny.
If a girl is unable to reply at the moment because of something, then to her, this kind of questioning is a childish behavior of you not being considerate, disrespecting her, or not being stable enough.
At this time, your relationship is just friends at best. If the girl responds to you, it is a matter of affection, but if she does not respond to you, it is her freedom.
So the correct approach is: if she doesn’t reply, wait a few days until you have a suitable topic, and then reestablish contact with her. If you can't find a suitable topic, just comment on her circle of friends. As long as the girl replies, you can directly click on her chat interface and switch to private chat status.
It is better to give up than to struggle if your confession is rejected.
After confessing to a girl, she made it clear to you that she has no feelings for you. This shows that there is a lack of compatibility between you and there is nothing worthy of her liking in you.
At this time, if a boy repeatedly emphasizes "I really like you" and "I will definitely be good to you", you may think these words are sincere and touching, but to a girl who doesn't like you, To say that is actually nothing more than nonsense.
Confession is called romance for the first time, persistence for the second time, and confusion for the third time. If you are still rejected, it means that the girl really has no feelings for you and is not trying to be reserved with you. In this case, if you continue to pester the girl and say these things, it is called harassment.
Think about it for a moment, a girl with acne on her face and a weight of 200 says one after another that she likes you and wants to be your girlfriend. What kind of experience is it like?
The correct approach is: the first thing you should do when chasing a girl is to show your charm and let the girl notice you, rather than rush to confess. (If a girl accidentally sees into your inner thoughts and rejects you in advance, you should temporarily characterize the relationship as friends instead of going against the trend and forcefully confessing.)
Even if the girl has noticed If you are interested in you, don't act too hastily. You can contact her as a friend first, so that the girl can further understand more of your advantages, strengthen your attraction to her, and solidify her interest in you. In this way, the girl will slowly turn her good impression of you into love without knowing it. .
When the relationship between two people has accumulated to a certain level, the time will be mature. At this time, another round of confession can successfully confirm the relationship.
