How to chat with girls seems to have become a headache for most boys. Chatting is also a manifestation of emotional intelligence. A person who can talk is a winner wherever he goes. And it is not easy to meet someone you like. If you lose it, the rest will probably be regrets. So how can you make people interested in chatting with girls?
In order to prevent boys from leaving regrets, the editor has summarized several core techniques. Chatting is about emotions and provides emotional value. Many times when boys chat with girls, they ask questions, provide boring topics, chat in a straight line, urgent invitations, etc... Of course, they will not arouse girls' interest.
Skill point 1: Opening statement
It is very important to have a perfect opening when chatting with girls. Many boys often enter an awkward period when opening with girls, which is very difficult to break the ice. Even many Boys don't know how to start a chat with girls, and problems arise as soon as they start talking.
Tip 2: Cause emotional fluctuations
After successfully breaking the ice, use push-pull techniques, proud and funny techniques to stimulate girls' emotional nerves and create emotional fluctuations.
Men's thinking is linear, while girls' thinking is wild and imaginary. So when we chat, the first thing we have to do is to change our thinking. The topics are always diverse. If you want to attract girls with topics, it is basically impossible. Many girls will think that you talk a lot and are good at chatting, but they won’t fall in love with you because of this.
So how can you stand out in the chat and make girls interested in you? I understand.
1. Narrative (storytelling)
①Attraction: a good story The beginning must be attractive to grab the girl's attention. For example: "I just came back from working overtime, and I didn't even bother to eat. I was in a hurry to go home after get off work. When I drove to the elevated road, I felt like I was sitting on the back seat. It seems like something is moving around..."
②Image implantation: A story must make the other party feel immersed in the scene, so that it can be exciting and fresh. For example:</ p>
"I was very tired, but I suddenly became energetic and secretly glanced at the rearview mirror for a few seconds."
③Turning: If the story has no turning point. , then it has always been boring, unable to attract girls.
"I still didn't find anything. Then suddenly there were two meows, which startled me. I took another look and found out. It’s the stray cat downstairs in our company~Niuniu. ”
④Introduce emotions: Talking about stories without emotions with girls will also feel boring.
“Maybe because she often feeds her ham sausage, she sneaks into the car, She definitely wants me to take her home. "By telling stories, I showed that I am usually caring, demonstrated my own qualities, and also chatted with girls.Animals, the topic also opened up, and they also showed themselves.
2. Extract keywords
①Keyword extraction association.
For example, if a girl says to you, "I'm going shopping with my colleagues today," then the key word in this sentence is: Today, colleagues, I'm going shopping.
We can extract a keyword from it and extend it, "I find that your life is like taking a train, shopping, shopping, shopping, shopping, shopping, shopping..." So you want girls to reply to you, your words You also need to make girls feel comfortable with you.
② Comforting upward association.
Based on the semantic meaning of the other party, learn to summarize and associate upwards. For example, a girl said: I no longer believe in love.
At this time, many straight boys don’t know how to comfort girls correctly. If it were me, I would answer like this, "Let’s make a bet, what will happen if you fall in love in a year?"
The advantage of doing this is that it brings the girl into thinking about betting with me and transfers the other party's sadness. This is the best comfort.
3. Insight into a girl's heart
It is not difficult to get into a girl's heart, it is difficult. You are too straight and don’t understand what she is thinking
In psychology, people’s thinking methods are divided into male thinking and female thinking.
But it does not mean that boys think like men and girls think like women. Boys and girls will have different ways of thinking in different situations.
For example:
The girl said, "I have a cold and I feel so uncomfortable."
The answer from the male mind: Just drink more hot water.
The answer from the female mind: Why are you so careless? You should take good care of yourself.
Can you see the difference?
She won’t directly talk about the big and small problems that girls encounter. You need to rely on your social intuition to feel them.
Then based on the characters you know, you can get the rules of the subtext that girls will say. Think of it before the girl thinks about it, and do it before the girl says it. Girls will think that you are a very responsible and responsible man, worthy of being entrusted to you for life!
In fact, it is not that difficult to chat with girls so that they can make people interested in chatting. What is difficult is that many boys clearly don’t know how to chat but are unwilling to learn.
