Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about the topic of love, which reminded me of some of my own experiences and reflections. Honestly, love is truly a subject of study, especially for women. How to maintain one's self while still being gentle in a relationship requires a certain level of wisdom.
First, I want to say that women in love should never over-invest themselves. This might sound like a cliché, but it's a mistake many women easily make. I once went through a relationship where I thought that if I gave enough, the other person would love me more. What happened? Not only did I feel wronged, but the other person didn't cherish me more because of it. As the article says, forced love is not sweet; over-investing only makes you feel more inferior and anxious. So, ladies, remember, love is a two-way street. One-sided giving will only make you lose yourself.
Speaking of mutual giving, I think this is particularly important. In love, everyone is greedy; all giving requires reciprocation. If you are always meeting the other person"s needs while they never consider your feelings, such a relationship is doomed not to last. Like in conversations, if the other person is always indifferent to you, there's really no need to continue. Love should be equal, not one-sided giving while the other enjoys.
Of course, another important point in love is understanding the other person. Many women fall into the trap of wanting to control their partner too much. In fact, men also have their own social circles and interests. Appropriate freedom is necessary. Don't always try to control the other person; giving them some space can actually make your relationship more harmonious.
At this point, I want to share a friend"s story. She and her boyfriend were high school classmates and only started having more contact in college. On their first date, the boy naturally took her hand, but she instinctively pulled away. Later, she asked me if she was too conservative. Actually, I don't think it's a matter of conservatism but rather her clear understanding of her own boundaries. As mentioned in the article, conservatism is a safety-based boundary, a guideline women should follow in love. If you feel it's not the right time, stick to your principles and don't compromise because of the other person's actions.
Speaking of conservatism, I think it"s actually a form of self-protection. In the era of fast-food love, many people think holding hands and kissing are commonplace, but everyone's pace and boundaries are different. Like my friend, she chose to take it slow. Although she and that boy didn't end up together, she had no regrets. Because she knew her persistence and boundaries helped her avoid unnecessary harm.
There are also many interesting discussions in the comments section. Someone said, "Protecting yourself is never wrong." Indeed, whether in love or life, protecting yourself is the most important. Another person said, "As long as you don't share a room, it's fine." Although this is a bit blunt, it reflects many people's real thoughts. In fact, fast or slow is not wrong; the key is to find someone who resonates with you.
Finally, I want to say that women in love should know how to give but also learn to protect themselves. Don"t lose your boundaries because of a momentary impulse, and don't compromise because you're afraid of losing. Love should be something that makes you better, not a burden that makes you anxious.
So, ladies, remember, being conservative in love is not wrong; it"s a wise choice. Take it slow, and you will eventually meet someone who respects and understands you.
