Many boys live in a small circle and rarely interact with girls. When they meet a girl they like, they tend to become nervous even when chatting, resulting in chatting after a few words. So how do you chat with a girl you like? , so that we can have a pleasant chat?
1. Two-line thinking to chat with the girl you like
When you first start chatting with a girl, there is a lot of freshness between the two parties, and the girl is willing to chat with you. But after a while, the freshness gradually disappears. If it does not give the girl the feeling she wants, she will Lost interest in chatting with you and no longer want to chat with you.
Although some brothers prepared a lot of topics before chatting, they still felt that they couldn’t chat and could only chat awkwardly.
This situation is very common. The reason for this situation is that there is an error in chatting thinking. You must know that girls are creatures dominated by emotions, and they pay more attention to the happy emotional experience of chatting. If there is no It can give girls a good emotional experience. Even if I give you a hundred topics, girls will still not like you.
Secondly, the topic will never attract the girl. At first, the girl is interested in the boy because the person attracts her, not what the topic is.
So if we want to chat with girls, we need to use dual-line thinking to chat with girls.
The first thought: Chat topics and directions
This is a thought that everyone has, which is what we often call the straight man’s logical thinking. Ask a girl a question, and then Give feedback based on the girl's answers, and then conduct the next round of questioning on the girl. Although it is boring, it is also thoughtful and continues the chat by asking questions.
I believe that many brothers use this way of thinking to chat with girls, but if we only rely on this way of thinking to chat, girls will not like it, so we also need to use the second way. thinking.
The second thought: implant elements of humor and ridicule
On the basis of the first thought, add misinterpretation, ridicule, jokes, jokes, Internet buzzwords, and funny catchphrases and other elements to make chatting more interesting.
This principle is very simple, just like when you were in elementary school, you first learn how to write a paragraph, and then learn how to add elements such as personification, exaggeration, metaphor, etc. to the paragraph to make it vivid. For example:
Male: Where are you from?
Female: Sichuanese
Male: Hey, I feel like you don’t want to be from Sichuan< /p>
Female: Really?
Male: I heard that the girls over there are more aggressive, I think you are quite gentle
Female: Haha, okay
p>The advantage of interspersing humor with the chat is that it can establish more interactions with girls and avoid unnecessaryBecause asking too straightforward questions makes girls feel bored and loses the motivation to chat. Of course, there are many examples like the above. The main purpose is to keep in mind the importance of interacting with girls, and to guide the emotions of girls instead of staying on the topic. surface.
2. Respond to the other party’s negative feedback with humor
It is normal for girls to be cold in the early stages of chatting. Because the relationship is unfamiliar, if we want to close the distance with the girl, we need to deal with the negative feedback from the girl with humor.
For example, a girl says "I'm not interested in you" and expresses rejection to us. At this time, if we reply to the girl directly, whether it is to prove herself or to quibble, she will fall into the girl's test. If you are eliminated by a girl, the correct reply at this time is: not to reply directly, such as:
Female: I don’t have a cold with you
Male: The epidemic is so serious now, you are going to catch a cold , then we two will be locked up in a small dark room
Female:...
Male: I have to protect myself
Even if I understand what the girl said The words are rejecting oneself, because once you respond to the other party, you will inevitably fall into the passive side of the relationship. Here, the "epidemic" is used to brush off the girl's rejection, and the topic has been successfully transferred to other aspects, and the "little dark room" "protects oneself" "In this way, it can better stimulate girls' emotions and bring them closer to each other.
3. Reasonably guide girls to date and meet up
When you have a good chat with a girl, you want to talk to her When girls get closer, they need to invite girls to meet and exchange feelings. However, when inviting girls, girls will refuse out of reserve. At this time, we need to provide reasonable guidance to dispel the girls' concerns and agree to meet with us.
For example: When you want to meet a girl you like, and she says: I’m afraid you’ll eat me, how do you answer?
Many brothers will say: “How could that be? , Don't worry." This kind of reply is actually following the girl's thinking of "you are a bad person", which is very detrimental to yourself. Even if you meet, you can easily become the other person's wallet.
The correct answer is: ""Don't do evil to me secretly"
Why do you reply like this? You must know that this sentence of a girl is actually showing that she is afraid of you. Taking advantage of her, if you subconsciously please the girl, you will put yourself in a disadvantageous position from the beginning to communicate with the girl, and fall into a passive situation, and be selected by the girl.
And here. The reply is to show the girl, "Don't do bad things to me." Put yourself on the victim's side to balance the relationship with the girl, and create a relaxed and pleasant chat atmosphere to find a rational reason for the meeting.
