There are always boys wondering why when chatting with a girl, they never have a few words to say. She either needs to eat or take a shower, or she is suddenly blocked while chatting. These are actually caused by the way the chat is too straight. Below, the editor will analyze for you the pitfalls of straight men chatting and see if you fall for them.
1. Convey the wrong message
When chatting with girls, many boys are particularly prone to Be stupid. We obviously like her, but we always talk to each other and become best friends.
When a girl asks you why you don’t have a girlfriend, you don’t take advantage of this great opportunity, so you have to pretend to be free and easy at this time, saying, "It’s so free to be single. It feels good to be single for a while, and it feels good to be single all the time." This obviously sends the wrong message to girls.
So what is the correct way of expression?
Take this example, you can say: "Isn't this something I didn't like before?"
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Oh? I didn’t like anyone before, does that mean I like someone now? Who is it? What kind of girl will she be? Why did he tell me? Is he talking about me?... ...
You see, this leaves unlimited room for imagination for girls. This ambiguous atmosphere is just right.
At the same time, the ball was thrown to the opponent soon. How the next story develops depends on what she says.
2. Girls are too serious when joking
Straight men have one of the biggest advantages, that is, they are serious.
If you ask him what the airplane mode on his mobile phone does, he can list it on a piece of paper for you and teach you how to operate it in this way.
However, sometimes, being too serious may not be a good thing. For example, when girls are joking.
Others just make casual remarks to adjust the atmosphere, but you are there talking to them for a long time. You don’t really think that girls are interested in biology, science, physics, technology, etc., do you?
Girls are not very interested in these things. They may just mention them casually. If they talk too much, they will appear boring.
3. Will not extend the topic
Speaking of the above example, I thought of another question, When many boys are chatting, they finally think of a topic and keep talking about it.
At this time, a problem can easily arise: you run out of things to say while chatting, and it becomes very embarrassing.
Do you know why you always end up in awkward conversations? The key lies in not knowing how to extend the topic.
A young lady shared this story with me:
Once, a boy asked her to go for a drink. She had something to do and refused. The next day, she thought about whether to go back and make a date. .
So I asked the boy: "Were you drunk last night?"
Male: No.
Female: Then you are not enjoying yourself.
Male: No, it’s pretty good.
Female:. . .
This is very obvious, and you don’t need to extend it. The girl directly gave such a direct hint. You don’t know what’s next, and your mind is just wandering around drinking. Who are you not single? Are you single?
As long as you can say "But, without your appreciation, the wine will be tasteless", wouldn't it be a matter of course?
I will give you all the steps. I can’t do it. Hey, I’m so angry.
I always say that there is no need to learn how to chat. No matter how good the chat is, it is not as good as meeting.
4. Straight men’s lively atmosphere
This self-proclaimed lively atmosphere around me has actually hurt girls. There are so many invisible straight men.
Let’s see if you are like this:
The girl told you that she accidentally fell while walking this morning.
As for straight men, in order to escape the embarrassing and restrained comfort, they would rather "find another way": "WOC, you are so awesome. It should be quite shocking for such a big guy like you to fall."
p>He thought that if he made a haha ??and made the girl laugh, they would forget the pain and the matter would be over.
Who knew, it didn’t matter that he fell down, but he stabbed straight into the heart and almost lost his breath.
Let me analyze the psychology of girls with you:
"I am here to complain to you, so that you can say a few nice words and comfort me, not to comfort you. "It's funny."
"Why do you think I'm so big? Do you dislike me?"
"I was really embarrassed at the time, ah, I Don’t go that way again.”
You see, not only was I not comforted, but I was even more sad.
What I know is that you are enlivening the atmosphere, but what I don’t know is that you are itchy, okay?
If the relationship is not good enough, or the girl doesn’t like to do this, For those of you who are joking, I would like to advise you not to be tempted to do anything crazy on the verge of death.
Having said so much, I actually think that straight men are better than straight men. They are often very serious about people and things, which is a very precious quality.
You have to believe that there are girls who can see your cute side, but this doesn’t stop us from learning to chat. If we have a happy chat with girls, wouldn’t it be more pleasant to get along with them?
