I have met such a couple. They often quarreled. Their children have grown up and are about to enter kindergarten. Due to the influence of their parents, they often lose their temper over trivial matters, and the family atmosphere is very disharmonious. In fact, they also want to change the status quo and want to know how to resolve the frequent quarrels between husband and wife, but they have never been able to solve the problem.
How should couples resolve frequent quarrels?
They are both educated people, and they manage their relationships with colleagues outside the home very well. Before they got married, they fell in love freely, and after several years of love life, they entered the marriage hall and officially became husband and wife. of. This also shows that the two of them have a relationship, so why did it change after they got married? When two people have different opinions about something trivial, do they have to quarrel? The two decided to take time to have a frank talk and find a solution.
After a long time, I once saw the husband of this family playing outside with their children in the community. Because It had just rained outside, and the child accidentally splashed muddy water on other children. The child ran over and complained to the child's father, saying that your child soiled my clothes. At this time, the father was a little angry and called his son over. , before the father could speak, the son took the initiative and said, "Dad, I was wrong, I shouldn't have gotten the muddy water on the children." At this time, the father's angry face calmed down, and he said, "Go and apologize to the children, and I will do it next time." Be careful.
This matter was successfully resolved in this way. I thought to myself that I was really impressed by the situation after three days of separation. In the past, children would inevitably be scolded or even punched. Dad seems to be a different person now. Because this couple and I live across the street, I don’t seem to hear the two quarreling recently? I was very curious, so I invited him to sit down and chat for a while.
Since we are neighbors and we know each other well, I asked straight to the point, have you and your wife stopped quarreling recently? When he heard me asking about this topic, he blushed and said embarrassedly that we would not quarrel. I asked out of curiosity how we had resolved the quarrels over trivial matters before. He told me exactly how they solved the problem.
It turns out that the two of them have a relationship, but they can't control themselves when they are worried about trivial family matters. When the other party blames themselves, they feel even more disgusted and must fight back against the other party to relieve their anger. , over time developed the habit of quarreling, he said. When we found that this bad habit had been passed on to our son, and his son often lost his temper over small things, we realized the seriousness of the problem, but Unable to find a solution, we have to live our lives and continue to quarrel. Those days were really torturous. Later, we all tried our best to restrain ourselves and ignored each other. The quarrel turned into a cold war. There was no laughter and fireworks in the house.
He said, maybe the husband and wife have a spiritual connection. We both feel that continuing like this is not an option. We all want to sit down, have a good talk, and really think of a solution, otherwise it will be ruined. Losing a child has ruined the family. Through heart-to-heart conversations, we found the root cause of the quarrel, which is that everyone has self-esteem. When he makes a mistake, he will slowly change it when he realizes it. If he is criticized, he will be very angry. If you feel disgusted, you have to fight back, especially with people you know well.
The problem is found, so how to solve it? The couple agreed that no matter who did something wrong, they should reflect on themselves first. , when the erring party cannot find the problem and takes the initiative to ask the other person to point it out, the other party can make criticisms. After practicing the husband and wife's agreement, it has produced results. Now the family is harmonious, and their relationship has returned to the state when they first got married. Under the influence of this, my son has also changed his bad temper. He can take the initiative to admit his mistakes when he does something wrong, and accept criticism humbly. As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers of their children. Your words and deeds will affect your children's life. For our children, we. Everyone should learn from this couple to find solutions to their problems and should be disciplined to abide by them.
