A long-term relationship needs to be managed and maintained by both husband and wife. Many times when a relationship has problems, it’s not because we chose the wrong person, it’s not because someone is difficult to take care of, and it’s not because someone turns out to be a scumbag. Instead, in the process of getting along, every little inconspicuous mistake is piled up there. In the end, a little makes a lot, and every drop of water can penetrate the stone. Therefore, if you want your relationship to last, you must do the following two things.
1. Reasonable communication
Caring for each other is the most basic thing between husband and wife Obligation, understanding and communication are the bridges that maintain the relationship between two people.
Sometimes you feel that the other party is performing terribly. It is not that the other party is indifferent and selfish, but that the other party really does not know how things should be. Many things that you take for granted are actually seriously lacking in the other party's understanding.
So sometimes as long as we can endure a little temper, speak clearly, and explain clearly, there will not be so many conflicts, at least we can avoid some misunderstandings that should not happen, and reduce the number of conflicts. After some quarrels, the relationship will be better.
2. Properly plan family financial expenses
The husband and wife live with daily necessities such as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Dealing with each other, and what supports these, of course it is money! So how to spend money and how much money to spend directly affect the quality of our daily life.
If a couple always has conflicts about expenses, then this relationship will definitely not last long.
For example, when I meet a stingy friend, I want soy milk and steamed buns for breakfast, but the other person is only allowed to eat fried dough sticks. I want to add a new shirt, but the other person says that I cannot change the old one if it is not worn. If you live your life as if you are surviving in the wilderness, and feel like a beggar even though you are rich, it is unlikely that you will be happy.
On the other hand, if you have a friend who spends money lavishly and pays for the IQ tax every day, his wallet will be empty before the end of each month, which is also a headache.
If two people have been arguing about financial expenses for a long time, how can their relationship last forever?
Therefore, if you want To solve this problem, we need to reasonably plan family financial expenses. Here are two options for you.
The first solution is to set consumption priorities.
First, survival investment is ranked first, such as food, clothing, housing, medicine and health; second is development investment, including education and expanding economic sources; and finally is comfort investment, such as watching movies, traveling, Get a bigger TV, a more comfortable sofa, etc.
The second option is to establish a good division of family economic rights.
A relatively simple method is that both parties can pay according to their own income.Set aside a percentage of your income as a family mutual fund for daily household expenses and development plans, such as buying groceries, water and electricity, medical treatment, and children’s education. The remaining money will be used for personal expenses, and both parties will not interfere with each other, which can reduce many unnecessary disputes.
