Arguing is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter, but how to resolve quarrels with his girlfriend is a skill that every boy needs to learn and master. The following will introduce how to effectively resolve quarrels with your girlfriend from several aspects.
1. Listen to the other person’s point of view
In a quarrel, many times we only focus on our own point of view and ignore the other person’s feelings and thoughts. So the first step is to learn to listen to the other person’s perspective. When our girlfriend expresses her dissatisfaction or opinions, we should listen patiently and try to understand her position and feelings.
For example, when your girlfriend complains that you don’t go shopping with her, you can say: “I understand that you want me to go shopping with you. , I also know that this is important to you. "Doing this will not only make your girlfriend feel understood, but also relieve her emotions.
2. Express your own point of view
After listening to the other person’s point of view, we should also have the opportunity to express our own point of view. However, pay attention to the manner and tone when expressing. Avoid using offensive words and express yourself in a calm manner.
For example, when your girlfriend complains that you always forget to help her with housework, you can say: "I know I have been somewhat negligent in this area, and I will try to correct it." This way you can express your point of view , without making your girlfriend feel blamed.
3. Find common solutions
Disputes often arise because both parties hold different views on a certain issue. Therefore, finding mutual solutions is key to resolving arguments. Both parties should sit down, discuss the issues calmly, and try to find a compromise solution that meets each other's needs.
For example, if your girlfriend wants you to watch TV with her every night, and you want to have time to read a book or exercise by yourself, then you can discuss a compromise, such as every Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday Watch TV with her in the evening and leave the rest of the time to yourself.
4. Learn to apologize and forgive
In quarrels, we will inevitably say some hurtful words . When we realize our mistakes, we should learn to apologize and promise not to make the same mistakes again. At the same time, we must also learn to forgive each other's mistakes and give each other a chance to start over.
For example, if you impulsively said something hurtful to your girlfriend during an argument, you can proactively apologize to her and promise to be more careful about your words and actions in the future.
5. Seek third-party help
If the dispute cannot be effectively resolved and both parties feel confused and exhausted, you can consider seeking third-party help. This third party can be a friend, family member, or professional counselor. They can look at problems objectively and give neutral advice.
For example, you can find a mutually trusted friend to listen to both sides' perspectives and give some suggestions and solutions.
When resolving a quarrel with your girlfriend, it is very important to listen to the other party, express yourself, find common solutions, learn to apologize and forgive, and seek third-party help. Only through the efforts and understanding of both parties can a healthy and stable love relationship be established.
