Question: My girlfriend and I have a relatively good relationship. When I am playing on my phone, I reply to her messages instantly. However, she rarely replies to my messages immediately, or even replies to my messages. Forget it during the day, maybe she is busy with work, but it is the same at night when she is lying in bed after get off work. Every time she sends a message, I reply immediately, and then I have to wait several minutes for her reply. Her QQ and WeChat notifications are all turned off, and I even had an argument with her once about this matter. I don't want to ask whose question it is, I just care about these details and hope that everyone can give me some suggestions.
Answer: Some people say they are busy, which is understandable. I think this is a matter of priority. She may be busy working, sleeping, watching TV, watching short videos, or even replying to other people's messages. It's not necessarily that "others" are more important than you, it may be that the topic is more interesting to her. In short, everything she does comes before replying to your message, so she will reply to your message later.
I had the same experience before. My ex-girlfriend always responded to my messages in half a day, or the next day. I only spoke to her once or twice a day and didn't bother her much. If it's something she's interested in, she'll reply immediately. And I always reply to her messages instantly. After a long time, I feel a little unbalanced in my heart. Especially after I send her a message, whenever there is a message reminder, I always think about whether it is her, and then I feel lost again... ..., this feeling is not good at all. Later, I set her WeChat to not remind me. I would feel uncomfortable if I didn’t reply to her message, so I would reply whenever I saw it. I don’t know if the effect is good or not, but they broke up anyway. In the end, my point of view is that they do not love you less, they just love themselves more.
What should I do if my girlfriend often doesn’t reply to messages? I can only say that everyone has their own life. Even if two people are together, don’t lose yourself. Brother, don’t be too obsessed with feelings and lose yourself. You have to become better. Remember that you are always the second. A person who is not worthy of love if you are no longer you, but someone who is annoying and suspicious.
Because my current girlfriend is busy at work, I often send her messages in the morning and she only has a chance to reply to me after she has a break at noon. , sometimes he will reply to me when he is free from work, and then disappear again. When she comes home from get off work, she sometimes ignores me while watching TV. When I chat with her, she always responds very slowly. I understand all of this and think it's normal. I'm not the sun, so why do I have to have her revolve around me?
I will also ignore her when I am gathering with friends and playing cards with my friends, and she will quietly find something to do on her own. There is no need for the two of us to be tied together.
But if you send a lot of messages to your girlfriend, but she doesn’t reply to you for three to five days, then youIt's time to think carefully about whether you have become an ex-boyfriend. If you have anything to say, find an opportunity to explain it clearly. Instead of guessing by yourself, it’s better to go find the answer directly.