Some boys are called scumbags by girls because they have hurt many girls’ hearts in relationships. Some boys date girls with a sincere heart, but end up becoming scumbag harvesters. Do you know the difference? How should boys avoid becoming a scumbag harvester? If you don't want to take detours in your relationship, you must come and understand.
How to avoid becoming a scumbag harvester
1. Don’t be a boy who is warm to everyone h3>
This kind of boy may want to cast a wide net for everyone, but he didn’t expect that girls also have a small pond. You just try your best to please the girl, but you didn’t expect that she met a better person, so you just You dumped it. Sometimes, sincerity can indeed be replaced by sincerity, but sometimes only sincerity is really not enough. Your sincerity may only make you a scumbag harvester.
Especially the boys who have been single for a long time have little love experience. Maybe you have just met a girl through someone else’s introduction, but you don’t know how to talk to her at all. The two of them meet rarely. If you don’t know how to chat, then the girl may also feel bored at this time, and what you are chatting with is also very boring. In addition, you may feel that your emotional intelligence is not high enough and you cannot chat. The intermittent contact between the two people makes The two of them were in an awkward situation, and they didn't know what to say that would be more interesting. They were even more afraid that the girl would become cold as time went on, and they were even more worried that the relationship between the two would become so bad. I was really a little anxious. If this is the case for you, you can come and talk to me!
2. Don’t just covet emotional value
In fact, everyone’s purpose in relationships is different. , if you just want to make money, you may need some early investment. If you just want you to not take a shower, I will talk to you in the early stage. How good does it smell when you don't take a shower? Therefore, boys who are purely greedy for emotional value are more likely to become scumbag harvesters.
Because they often lose themselves before falling in love, right? And there will be a relatively sufficient reason to convince yourself that the other party must love you, have you found out? Then we will fall in worrying about gains and losses, and continue to worry about gains and losses in the process of falling. When the possessiveness continues to escalate, we will be eager to declare sovereignty immediately, right? The most terrible thing is that after the fall, we discovered that the enthusiasm and pampering we felt at the beginning would suddenly become intermittent, lukewarm, and finally indifferent in the later stages.
At this time, it is difficult for us to adapt to this state, because after having a heart-to-heart relationship, we suddenly no longer have a heart-to-heart relationship, which is very strange. If you face this situation yourself and don’t know how to reverse the situation, then You want to conquer the other person even more, and you want the other person to worship you even more, right? In fact, in this situation, I advise you to stop your losses in time, regardless of the success or failureWhether it works or not, for you, it is actually a kind of internal friction in your relationship.
