When chasing a girl, you don’t need to chat every day to make her like you. Especially when you first get to know a girl, if the frequency of chatting is too frequent, it can easily have the opposite effect. So what kind of chat should you keep with a girl when you first get to know her? frequency?
1. Aimless and fruitless chatting
Chatting with girls must have rules and procedures. If you chat with girls aimlessly, the girl’s reaction will only get worse. It's getting worse. Girls will be full of freshness the moment they first meet you. This is also the time when you have the greatest opportunity. Make full use of this opportunity. If you chat with girls aimlessly, the result will be that after the novelty of the girl wears off, she will no longer be interested in you.
Just like a new mobile phone you bought, you are full of freshness and can't put it down. After one month, your interest fades away, and after three months, it is just a mobile phone, without any novelty at all.
2. The organizational process is approaching step by step
Girls’ relationship stages are divided into: strangers, Familiarity, ambiguity, flirting, boyfriend and girlfriend. Every time before you start chatting with a girl, make an assessment of the current relationship stage. The next stage is the goal of this chat. Every round of chatting you do is to upgrade your relationship with a girl. If you can't achieve this goal, you would rather not chat. If you don't advance against the current, you will retreat.
If you are still strangers, you can pretend to be familiar with each other first. Imagine how you chat with your friends in life. If you use this tone to chat with girls, your relationship will naturally reach the stage of familiarity. Then comes the ambiguous stage. You can start with the girl's nickname, such as baby, sister, honey, etc. If the girl does not resist, the relationship upgrade will be considered successful. According to the relationship stage, you can gradually get closer to the girl through chatting until you become a boyfriend and girlfriend.
3. Master the frequency of control and balance
How to control the frequency of chatting with girls? The following is You have a different frame of reference depending on the stage of your relationship.
If you are a boyfriend and girlfriend, you can start the topic at any time; if you are still just strangers, you can start the topic after two to three days; if you are in an ambiguous relationship, you can start the topic after one day .
Remember to maintain a balance in the chat. Many men like to send a bunch of messages to girls, and girls often only respond with a few short words. This form of chatting is extremely unbalanced, will make you appear to be particularly eager for the other person, and will ruin a girl's good impression of you. A girl is very slow to reply to messages, so don’t reply instantly, and keep up with her in terms of frequency of replies.
4. Choose a topic that is fatal
The topics for chatting with girls are nothing more than topics about you, topics about her, topics about you, and third-party topics. From the perspective of promoting closer relationships, purely third-party topics cannot play any role. For example, you have talked about a thousand topics about dogs, and these topics are all about dogs. This has nothing to do with your relationship and is of no use.
In the early stage of the chat, you can start with girls’ topics, including their outfits and hobbies. What everyone cares about most is always themselves. Starting with the girl’s topic can open up the topic better; in the mid-term chat, you should talk more about yourself and show yourself more. If you want a girl to like you, you have to bring out your shining points, and Instead of focusing on girls, talk more about the two of you in later chats, such as imagining scenes of you cooking and playing together. This will help cultivate a sense of comfort and enhance your emotions.
Finally, you can slowly guide her in the direction of the date. For example, you can say, tomorrow is a nice day, how about we go out to enjoy the breeze together. If the girl agrees, then you will have the possibility of further development!
