Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of love, I realized that everyone has experienced those "twisted" moments. You like someone but dare not confess; you're in a relationship but always anxious about losing it; you've broken up but are still stuck in past memories. Honestly, I used to be that person too, and it was really exhausting. Today, I want to talk about how to avoid these twists in love and live a bit more relaxed.
First, admitting that you like someone is really not shameful. Every time I liked someone, I used to think if I was being too forward, if it would make me seem cheap. And what happened? I missed many opportunities and ended up regretting it. Actually, liking someone is a normal thing; men and women are equal in love. If you like someone, go for it. Don't think that a girl taking the initiative is cheap. As someone in the comments said, "It's only cheap if you think taking the initiative is cheap." That really hit home for me.
Secondly, don"t always feel like you're not good enough for the other person. I used to be very insecure. Every time someone confessed to me, I thought they were joking or just saying it casually. Later, I realized that feeling unworthy really makes you less confident. In relationships, the more you lower yourself and try to please others, the more they might look down on you. Believe that you are worthy of love, and you will truly be loved. A netizen in the comments said, "The moment he broke up with me, I felt so relieved." This resonated deeply with me. Instead of worrying all the time about whether the other person will leave, it's better to enjoy the happiness of the moment.
Now, let"s talk about some small tips in love. I think the most important thing is to love yourself first, then love others. Love is just a part of life, not everything. You should have your own job, hobbies, and interests, and not focus all your attention on your partner. A netizen in the comments said, "More care ????," and I think this is very right. Care is mutual, but the premise is that you must take care of yourself first.
Also, don"t change yourself too much to please the other person. If he says he likes a sexy style, you start wearing high heels and stockings; if he says he likes short hair, you cut off your long hair that you've been growing for a long time. Actually, your partner likes you because you are naturally lovely. Of course, if the changes the other person hopes for are beneficial to you, then it's fine. But never lose yourself just to please the other person.
Another important point is to maintain an appropriate distance. In love, being too close is not necessarily a good thing. Like flying a kite, if the string is pulled too tight, the kite is more likely to break. Let it go appropriately, and pull it when necessary, to keep the love fresh. A netizen in the comments said, "Be honest with each other ????," and I think this is very reasonable. In love, honesty and an appropriate sense of distance are both important.
Finally, what I want to say is, don"t use a transactional mindset in love. Don't think, "I did this for you, so you should repay me." This mindset not only makes you tired but also puts pressure on the other person. Love is mutual, but it's not a transaction. A netizen in the comments said, "Makes sense!", and I think this is very right. In love, lowering your expectations of your partner can actually make the relationship more relaxed.
In summary, the key to love without twists is: admit your feelings, believe in yourself, love yourself first, be yourself, maintain an appropriate distance, and don"t use a transactional mindset. I hope every girl can live a bit more relaxed in love and enjoy the beauty of love. As someone in the comments said, "Wish to win one's heart, and never part till old age." May we all find the right person and have a love without twists.
