When dealing with people, communication is indispensable. If you communicate well, you can get twice the result with half the effort. But if you don't know how to communicate, one sentence may cause the other party to misunderstand you. This is the most common among couples, so today I will give you some tips to see what are the skills for effective communication and how to achieve effective communication. Let’s take a look.
1. Prerequisites for effective communication
Be loving internally and reasonable externally.
A brief explanation:
Wife refers to close people, such as partners, relatives, and friends.
Wai refers to outsiders, not close people.
2. Talk about love internally
That is to say: home is a place for love, not reason.
Many couples are at odds with each other. In fact, the reason for the quarrel is not that big, but they both refuse to give in and even end up sad.
For example:
The woman said: Let’s use couple avatars to make them more intimate.
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From a psychological perspective: They are all right, so there is no right or wrong in theory. The important thing is not to talk about reason, but to talk about love.
When a woman wants a couple avatar, her inner need may be that she hopes to be valued and loved by a man. If a man does not change his avatar, he can try to respond to the woman like this:
"I really can't change it. But I feel that this is very important to you. Maybe you want to use this to show that we are very close or that I love you very much. Then I will post more in Moments to show my affection. Do you think it will work?"
This is it Communicate on the level of "love" and satisfy the other party on the level of "needs" rather than persuading on the level of "reason".
Internally, that is, partners, relatives, and friends, respond to and satisfy each other at the level of love and feelings.
3. Be reasonable with others
It does not mean that feelings and love are not important when communicating with outsiders. . Rather, he said: Lower your expectations. Reasoning is your duty, and love is your duty.
First make the "reasons" of things, principles, and interests clear, and then talk about people, whether you want to talk about love or not.
Some people often feel uncomfortable. Why doesn’t the boss pay attention to my feelings?
This is because the external expectations are too high. The boss gives you money in exchange for your labor. It is fair and direct, and he does not He has no obligation to take care of your feelings, he just needs to take care of them.
Of course, he is lucky to have a good boss, but that is not his duty.
I am not advocating that everyone should be cold, but lowering expectations will allow you to encounter bad things.When you are your boss, you feel more comfortable and can better protect yourself. I am on your side.
Some people are tired when they are leaders. For example, they think a lot about their subordinates, but their subordinates are unappreciative and very selfish. This means having too high expectations and talking too much to others (and unworthy people). Much love.
There is no need to have too high expectations from the outside world. It is enough to explain the truth first. For those who are worthy, you can then talk about love.
So do you understand?
